Why does the world make being single seem so wrong? Especially being a single female? I have wondered about this topic for quite sometime. When I tell people that I am 26 and single (especially older folks) they almost have a heart attack. When I talk to people my age and I say that I am single they look at me as if something is wrong with me. Oh and of course, our beloved Saints. The church family well, before you hear a "how are you doing" you hear " I'm praying on that husband for you baby" LOL.Truth be told, I am absolutely grateful for those prayers but I'm content right now.
1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 Paul explains how it is better to be single. The single have time to fully commit to the Lord. Now lets lay this out in layman's terms. As a single person, I have time! Seriously, I can attend all the youth events, prayer nights, concerts, movies, dinners, and friends events. I can travel at a moments notice. I CAN SAVE MONEY! We all know I am a Fashionista. I can shop whenever I want without much consideration. My mind can meditate on God's word without distraction. Yes, I want to be married and have a family! But this single season gives so much preparation. I can learn how to cook, how to properly do laundry ( its scientific I tell you..lol) I can have priceless experiences and testimonies. This is my time to get to fully know God and to fully know myself.
During my Monday morning devotional before work I read the story of Jacob and Rachel (Genesis 29). The Bible says that Jacob so loved and desired Rachel that he agreed to work 7 years for her ( 7 YEARS!!!!) The Words further explains that the 7 years seems like just days to Jacob. See what I learned from this story is that Jacob believed in God so much that he knew at the end he would receive his hearts desire so he was content in waiting and working towards that blessing. We ought to believe God for our blessings too. The time between realizing our desire and God giving us the blessing should be filled with contentment and peace and work. As a single who desires a Godly marriage and family, I fully believe that God will give that to me. I also realize that God needs my full undivided attention right now. He needs me to reach out to other broken girls who have been through or going through what I have. To be a light unto others for his glory. To show non Christians that its okay to laugh and be silly and still love the Lord with all your being. At the same time God is answering my prayers too. I asked that he prepare me for my one day husband and family ( 3 kids, please Jesus)
PSA: Be careful of what you pray for. Some of us are not fully prepared to take that hard look in the mirror and realize we sometimes are the problem. That there are things in us that must change.
I know many young people who are married or engaged and they all say the same thing. They have an added responsibility. They have another person(s) consideration to take into account. They are not able to easily up and leave for vacations or spend money. Especially wives, they have to take care of home and their families before any church events or outings.
Contentment, Peace, Dedication & Preparation are the main themes of your single season. If you continue the story of Jacob and Rachel you know that he was tricked (due to his previous disobedience) into working 7 more years to receive Rachel as his wife. Those years went by as if days because Jacob was not toiling over the time but rather he was in contentment and at peace about his hearts desire that he would gain in the end. On a personal note, I found myself actually counting the time that I have been single until I read this story. Keeping tabs is not a part of this season, enjoy your time with the Lord and ALL that he has to show you and have you experience. When you are married with your family, you can be prepared for certain obstacles and events. You can have testimonies to help guide your future children through their difficulties. Let the light of God shine through you in your single season and that light may very well guide your future right to you.
Love you to Peace,
Cherrell A.
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1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 Paul explains how it is better to be single. The single have time to fully commit to the Lord. Now lets lay this out in layman's terms. As a single person, I have time! Seriously, I can attend all the youth events, prayer nights, concerts, movies, dinners, and friends events. I can travel at a moments notice. I CAN SAVE MONEY! We all know I am a Fashionista. I can shop whenever I want without much consideration. My mind can meditate on God's word without distraction. Yes, I want to be married and have a family! But this single season gives so much preparation. I can learn how to cook, how to properly do laundry ( its scientific I tell you..lol) I can have priceless experiences and testimonies. This is my time to get to fully know God and to fully know myself.
During my Monday morning devotional before work I read the story of Jacob and Rachel (Genesis 29). The Bible says that Jacob so loved and desired Rachel that he agreed to work 7 years for her ( 7 YEARS!!!!) The Words further explains that the 7 years seems like just days to Jacob. See what I learned from this story is that Jacob believed in God so much that he knew at the end he would receive his hearts desire so he was content in waiting and working towards that blessing. We ought to believe God for our blessings too. The time between realizing our desire and God giving us the blessing should be filled with contentment and peace and work. As a single who desires a Godly marriage and family, I fully believe that God will give that to me. I also realize that God needs my full undivided attention right now. He needs me to reach out to other broken girls who have been through or going through what I have. To be a light unto others for his glory. To show non Christians that its okay to laugh and be silly and still love the Lord with all your being. At the same time God is answering my prayers too. I asked that he prepare me for my one day husband and family ( 3 kids, please Jesus)
PSA: Be careful of what you pray for. Some of us are not fully prepared to take that hard look in the mirror and realize we sometimes are the problem. That there are things in us that must change.
I know many young people who are married or engaged and they all say the same thing. They have an added responsibility. They have another person(s) consideration to take into account. They are not able to easily up and leave for vacations or spend money. Especially wives, they have to take care of home and their families before any church events or outings.
Contentment, Peace, Dedication & Preparation are the main themes of your single season. If you continue the story of Jacob and Rachel you know that he was tricked (due to his previous disobedience) into working 7 more years to receive Rachel as his wife. Those years went by as if days because Jacob was not toiling over the time but rather he was in contentment and at peace about his hearts desire that he would gain in the end. On a personal note, I found myself actually counting the time that I have been single until I read this story. Keeping tabs is not a part of this season, enjoy your time with the Lord and ALL that he has to show you and have you experience. When you are married with your family, you can be prepared for certain obstacles and events. You can have testimonies to help guide your future children through their difficulties. Let the light of God shine through you in your single season and that light may very well guide your future right to you.
Love you to Peace,
Cherrell A.
Follow on IG @churchgirlsministry
Follow on FB: Church Girls Ministry
www.churchgirlsministry.com
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